for better or for worse


Vows start early ’round these parts. J was laid off on Monday. He worked for a pretty small company, and was the newest employee, and highest paid, so it was no doubt a smart business decision. Buuuuut it still sucks. This is the second time he’s gotten the hook since the recession started. Obviously not his fault, but a blow to the ego nonetheless.

The first time, last May, he didn’t really like his job anyway, and he had a good bit of cash saved up, so he didn’t take it too hard. This time though, he hasn’t built his savings back up, and he really liked what he was doing and the people he worked with. So it just sucks all around. We worked on his resume last night, and he’s been online today looking for jobs. The difference from the last time he looked is amazing. He does software development, so a pretty high demand set of skills, and last time he would get pages and pages of job openings when he did searches. Now, maybe 10 jobs will pop up. And we live in an area that has been, comparatively speaking, somewhat removed from the worst of the economic crunch.

Anyway, keep your fingers crossed for us that he finds something soon. I think he’s going to look for something with a bigger (i.e. more stable) company this time around. Money will be tight until he finds something, but if we watch the budget pretty closely we should be okay, for a month or so anyway. Wedding spending will have to slow down a little. Or start going on credit cards, which we wanted to avoid. Mostly it just sucks seeing someone you love so upset and literally not be able to do anything about it. I feel completely useless.

i’m still here, i promise!

I’ve been a neglectful blogger, I know. What with finishing up my schoolwork for the semester and then moving, plus I’m on a new client at work where I don’t have as much free reign on the internet. (the nerve!)

The move went well, pretty uneventful. My Dad and brothers were very helpful loading and unloading the U-Haul on either end. Now the big pile of boxes that was in my apartment is scattered around the house, waiting to be unpacked. Every other place I’ve ever moved into has been empty when I got there, but since J’s stuff is already all settled in here, it’s a little tougher to unpack. There’s lots of moving HIS stuff around to fit in my stuff, and renegotiating where things go. It’s definitely a process. Has anyone else had the experience of moving in with your guy to a place he already lived? How did you make if feel like “ours” and not “his” anymore?

In wedding news, my shoes came! They are even more fabulous in person than on the website. I am so excited to wear them. Not much else to report on that front, unfortunately. We’re in the midst of a venue hunt. My parents are chipping in for about 2/3 of the cost of the wedding, which is awesome, but it also means that they are able to have a bit of say in how things go. Unfortunately my mom and I have diametrically different styles and tastes. And personalities. So, my poor sister/MOH is running interference. We’re checking out some more places next weekend, keep your fingers crossed. Once we have somewhere booked, I’ll give you a full run down of all of the drama!

Also, if you know of any great all-inclusive, non-hotel venues with outdoor ceremony space within an hour or so of DC, let me know! 🙂

i will be so happy when this move is over

the disaster that is my apartment…

moving pile

the cat is not amused…

moving room

crazy week

The Big Move is this Sunday, and on Saturday J and I are taking my folks to see our venue of choice. So, this week is a little crazy and will be light on posts. But, never fear! With any luck, if Saturday goes well, we will have a date set and a venue by next week, so I’ll have LOTS to start posting about! Get excited, and cross your fingers that all goes well.

Oooh and I got my cards made for Vane’s (of Brooklyn Bride) holiday card swap. I’m pretty pleased with how they came out (I am not super crafty, though I wish I was…) I’ll post pics after I send them out, so as not to ruin the surprise for my card swap buddies.

pretty little things

So, moving into J’s place has me keeping an eye out for bargains on home furnishings and decor. He’s lived there himself for a little over a year, but he spent a lot of that time fixing it up. Now it looks great – but is mostly empty! Lucky for him I like shopping 😉 The living room and bedroom both need new furniture sets, but since that’s a big expense, they might be a way off. However, my side of the bed currently is nightstandless. Which was tolerable when I was only spending weekends there. But not so much full time. I am pleased to say, however, that the issue has been remedied! I present to you my first purchase for our home – the Dolce Nightstand, a la Target!

the Dolce Nightstand

Now I just need a cute reading lamp to go on top of it… I kind of like this little guy, also from Target…
Sanford Table Lamp

Has anyone else seen cute and affordable table lamps recently? (Or cute and affordable home decor of any nature, really…)

money matters

Last night J and I decided that this weekend we’re going to have “the money talk”. We need to decide how we’re going to share finances and bills once I move in. I’ve never lived with anyone before, so this is a whole new ballgame for me. On the one hand, it’s never much fun to talk about money. I don’t think too many people enjoy sharing their personal finances. On the other hand though, it makes me feel very grown up that we’re dealing with it in advance in a mature manner.

I’m thinking about stopping at Barnes & Noble to pick up some financial advice books. I have heard good things about “Smart Couples Finish Rich” by David Bach. If they’re in stock, I might also take a look at this, this , or this. I figure a bottle of wine will help the process too…

How do you and your partner manage money? Do you have any book recommendations?

welcome to (sub)urbanity!

Hello! Thanks for stopping by my brand spanking new blog! I’m going through some big changes (good ones!) in my life and I find it easier to process things and make decisions when I write them out. Additionally, I’ve recently become addicted to the blogs of others at the same place in life as I am, and found them very helpful. So I’m hoping that through this blog I can provide the same sort of inspiration to others out there, as well as have a place to process my ideas and decisions.

Some basics about me. (Feel free to skip this) I’m a rare native of the Washington, DC area, having grown up in the Virginia suburbs – or “Nova”. If you’re not familiar with the city, it’s very transient, and it’s pretty unusual to run into folks who were born here, grew up here, and stayed here! My parents have lived in the same house since a month before I was born. After college I came back and moved to a younger, more urban area not far from my parents. I love it here, and I can’t imagine living anywhere else.

However, next month I will be taking the big step of moving in with my wonderful boyfriend of over two years, J. J owns a home further out from the city, so, I’m officially headed back to the ‘burbs! I am determined not to let this affect my stylish, youthful sensabilities, though! 😉 His home (soon to be “our” home!) is pretty sparsely furnished and hardly decorated at all. My goal is to create a chic, homey style on a very small budget!

Other things that I’m semi-obsessed with and will likely be turning up pretty frequently in the blog include (but are not in any way limited to) shoes, purses, books, feminism, politics, weddings and learning to cook. So, welcome, thanks for stopping by, and I hope you’ll follow my journey into fabulous domestication!